Workplace Stress Trap – I’m Just a Gal (Guy) Who Can’t say NO?
The rest of the song is – ‘I’m in a terrible fix. I always say come on let’s go, just when I should say nix.’ While the original song from Richard Rogers’ Oklahoma was about a girl who enjoyed saying yes to men, in this article I am talking about guys and gals who can’t say no at work.
For a series of articles on Workplace Stress Traps go to my Ezine home page (http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Dr_Jeff_Bailey ) or my website (www.drjeffbailey.com ). There are many workplace traps that cause us to feel stress at work and we have to develop strategies to deal with the traps AND the stress.
One of the 10 traps I am writing about is NOT BEING ABLE TO SAY NO at work. Saying YES is not necessarily bad; in fact, willingness to step up to the plate is admirable. But there are problems with being too willing to say no – you will get into some ‘turrible fixes’.
If you do say yes, you are indicating that you are socially responsive, respect the needs of the organization, are willing to go the extra mile, are committed to the organization’s goals, and are sufficiently flexible and energetic to help out when things get tough.
You do have to think about the negative side of saying YES all the time. Perhaps you already have a full plate, you would be squeezing corners to do the extra work, the quality of your work will drop, your colleagues might not be impressed with your zeal, and your loved ones might get tired of waiting for you to spend time with them.
I often write about work-life balance; keeping the two parts of your life in harmony so that neither the workplace nor your family and loved ones miss out. If you are unable to manage workplace stress traps and workplace stress there will be a negative effect on those you most care about. They will feel left out, ignored, second class citizens. You have to learn how to manage your stress, keep workplace stress and personal stress under control, so that you have time to enjoy your life. So, go ahead, say ‘No’ occasionally – it might be liberating.
Warm regards
For the team at Mighty Digital Downloads
Dr Jeff, a psychologist, writes about workplace stress, personal stress, interpersonal stress, and how to manage stress. On his blog,http://www.drjeffbailey.com, he answers questions from readers. He works hard to make his articles practical and helpful and all of his articles are based on sound research evidence and extensive clinical experience. Please go to his Dr Jeff blog to get your free report on stress.
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